Mental Health

Mental health awareness month!

Mental health is a state of well-being in which an individual realizes his or her own abilities, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and is able to make a contribution to his or her community.-WHO

There are many factors that could affect our mental health, stress, Poor physical health, reaction to an incident, trauma, social disadvantage and even genetic factors.

I have always been the emotional one.
I react easily to situations and most of the times, I overeact.😂 Even before Mason, I am already a worrier, always anxious and a negative self talker. A person’s mental health starts from childhood and it is nurtured as he/she grows. One of the things that I remember when I was a child is definitely the weekly conflict of my parents (they adore each other so much but they always have these petty quarrels that often turns into a big deal) I got used to my Dad’s reaction to things and possibly why I unconsciously corresponded to this character too.
I could go on with lots if issues that I had experienced (I think, I blogged a lot of them here too, just scroll way back) But, dont get we wrong, my child hood was not that bad, it was chaotic but full of love. My parents are super sweet most of the time especially to me (syempre bunso 😂) I think that all these ordeals good or bad, and how I was able to overcome everything, makes up my emotional well being now. But honestly, I am still learning and experiencing new things.

There are ways to take care of our mental health such as, getting help from professionals when needed, connecting with others, getting involved in physical activities, helping others, getting enough sleep and staying positive that there is a way out. For me, one of the things that really helped me is by writing it all down! Up to this day, writing no doubt will always make me feel better (hence this very personal blog). Writing everything helps me to be more aware and attuned to the things that makes me so stress and things that I cannot control. Aside from writing, family and friends are my next go to. My partner is not a pessimist like me so I guess it helps to have someone who can pull me out of my cynicism. And of course, friends who listen never fails too. One experience has really drained me and I once needed a counselor to manage my stress (yes don’t be afraid to consult and to find help). I have been trying to explore things daily that will help me calm down without putting too much pressure on myself too.

This pandemic has affected so many people in so many ways like loss of job, social limitations, social media pressure and the covid scare itself. Ive seen people feeling more agitated, more stressed, more restless, and more sleepless. (Me included! 🙋🏻‍♀)  If know someone who feels this way, (even you!) dont forget to connect and reach out. 🤗

And before this month ends, I just want to share this quote
“Anything that’s human is mentionable, and anything that is mentionable can be more manageable. When we can talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting, and less scary.” — Fred Rogers 😘

Off from Facebook

It has been 2 months since I decided to deactivate and uninstall my Facebook account.

Nowadays, Social Media has been a huge part of our Lives and most people are on Facebook. I think that there’s a saying “if its not on Facebook, it didn’t happen” or “You do not exist if you are not on Facebook”. And for the past 2 months of being away from facebook, I realized that it didn’t really matter. I am fine with just using Instagram and I am happy that most of my close friends also use Instagram instead of Facebook which makes me feel that somehow I am still connected to my friends through these social media accounts. Twitter is also a big help, this is Where I usually Rant and Vent out.

These are what I have noticed, All kinds of people are on Facebook. It’s hard to filter which Items or types of people you just want to see. It’s also easy to put yourself out there when you are on facebook. The Share option can really go miles. Believe me I tried to delete/Unfriend those facebook friends that I really don’t know, posts too much nonsense and are always ranting on facebook but I guess I got tired and just decided that , you know what? I can just deactivate and uninstall, which I did. One of my bestfriends also deactivated her FB so might as well follow her. Haha!

On Instagram, I noticed that there are cliques (btw since I am using more instagram nowadays, this is what I have observed) When I say cliques, there are groups of people with same interest and once you followed this certain group of people, you will see more of these kinds of people and posts, they will also start following you or you attract these people with similar passion (which is good btw) In my personal account, my partner and I really love eating out, we are foodie buddies even during our dating days, when we started to live together, our love for food grew, the eat outs became more frequent, cooking is something we look forward to and eating will always be our bonding. Hence, the reason why I post mostly about food, restaurants and recipes, I think these food also show why and how we grew together.Recently, I use Instagram to find similar food interest and found that there are really particular groups on Instagram. You will notice these people follow each other and connect through photos and videos of similar interest. I honestly think this is good because as I see it they support each other even though they don’t know each other. Nice no?

When I created Thisissewnaiz, I decided that this account will really focus on handmade ideas, crafts, sewing and finding girls with similar interest of sewing as I am (Honestly it is a bit hard because most sewing enthusiast that I see are from different countries but I am loving all these Ideas that I am learning and seeing from them. I honestly like Instagram because there will be limited comments from each other as long as you are following only those that you like then you’ll be safe from any negative feedback. Ohh and don’t forget Pinterest too! But most pinterest photos are from instagram too so you can use both platforms whichever you prefer.

While on Twitter, what I love about it is you can mute any word that you don’t want to see. You can set your account on private that even if you react, the person will not see it unless he or she follows you back. Haha tricky. But overall, ranting, venting and even any of your interest you can follow on your twitter. On Twitter, I follow mostly about KPOP hahaha, this is where I keep myself update on what’s new about my favorite KPOP groups. Similar to Instagram if you keep on following certain users, Twitter will also suggest similar users that you may have interest in.

As my anxiety grew because of this Pandemic, I realized that I don’t really need these kinds of negative environment and one of this is Facebook. I tried to limit my News information and I also just focus on what inspires me as of the moment which truly helped me for the past few months. I guess, it helps to have the right platform to use if you still want to be connected thru social media.